That my mother was driving me to the airport that brisk autumn morning in October of 1976 was already curious—my father was the standard driver to the airport. My mother at the wheel meant “keep noise to a minimum and allow for concentration.” My father at the wheel meant that traffic laws were optional and
Five years ago, my husband and I embarked on a journey westward, far from our beloved East Coast Jewish community and batei midrash. After searching for the right pulpit for my husband, we landed in the San Francisco Bay Area, home of the Gold Rush and arguably one of the largest, yet most highly unaffiliated,
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For me, the brit of my firstborn son was, first of all, a celebration of the start of my family. I didn’t have a wedding to celebrate: I had never married, and my pregnancy had been achieved using the sperm bank. The beginning of the pregnancy was something too private to celebrate in public. The
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When my daughter had her first child, a boy, sixteen years ago, she called and asked me to fill the role of sandak, or, in my case, sandakit. I was excited to take part in this ceremony, as I remembered from the britot of my own three sons that I had been pretty much a
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I have always loved the mitzvah of brit milah. As a woman, this might seem surprising, as I have heard from many friends how terrified they were at their sons’ britot. However, for me, my three sons’ britot provided some of the most spiritually significant moments of my life. One of the reasons I have
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My wife, Sharon, and I were blessed in 1974 with the birth of our first—of four— daughters. Two weeks later, among family and friends, we celebrated Micole’s birth with a simhat bat ceremony. My article describing our simhat bat (“An Orthodox Simchat Bat”) appeared in Sh’ma magazine and was subsequently reprinted in a booklet compiled
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It’s a sweet irony to be thinking about how the simhat bat ceremony got its name as I help the daughter for whom the name originated as she prepares for the brit of her newborn son. This new little boy’s four-year old sister came home from school the other day, visibly troubled by one of
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I loved being pregnant. Not just because I could stop worrying about my bulging midriff—though that was nice too—but because I felt that I was engaged with God in an essential act of creation. Every ultrasound revealed to me another step in the master plan, every kick and turn, another miracle. Nurturing the life inside
On June 28, 2010, the Knesset passed amendments to the Law for Prevention of Sexual Harassment by Figures of Authority. The amendment, to include spiritual and religious leaders as legally constituted figures of authority, was initiated by Kolech. This legal victory by Kolech had great significance to me personally, as a clinical psychologist and a
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On the eighth of Adar, the day before my birthday, I celebrated in a café in a suddenly snowy Jerusalem with friends from Midreshet Lindenbaum and my army group. Even though religious talk is taboo among the latter, I gave myself a “birthday girl license” and shared a d’var Torah. As I spoke, some eyes
