One woman was charitable but had a husband who was stingy, who did not wish to buy books (intended to be loaned to poor students who needed them) or give charity. And when her time came to perform her (monthly) immersion she did not wish to do so. He asked her, “Why do you not immerse yourself?” She said, “I will not immerse myself unless you agree to buy books and give money to charity.” And he did not want to do so, and she refused to immerse until he would agree to buy books and give charity He complained to the sage about her, who told the man: “May your wife be blessed that she forces you to do a mitzvah.”
Sefer Hasidim, 670
Quoted by Abraham Grossman, Pious and Rebellious: Jewish Women in Medieval Europe, 2004, p.192